Ep 71 Transcript: Manifest Big, Move Boldly, and Rewire Your Mind for Abundance with Victoria Gallagher

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Hello and welcome to the Real Women Real Business podcast. I am your host, Shauna Lynn Simon. And today I'm excited to welcome Victoria Gallagher, also known as the Law of attraction hypnotist. She's a worldwide leader in hypnotherapy and a bestselling author. She's got over 20 years of experience specializing in helping business owners to rewire their subconscious for success and shift their money mindset to create sustainable wealth.

So if you've ever found yourself undercharging, because I know you have, we all have, or feeling guilty about profit, again, welcome to the club, or knowing that you should scale, but somehow you feel like you're just sabotaging your own success, this conversation is for you. Victoria's gonna help us break down what's causing your money blocks and help to give us some practical tools to help to overcome them. So Victoria, welcome.

Thank you. Thank you so much for having me. I love that intro and I love this topic. So we could have talked about anything today and that this happens to be one of one of my specialties. Well, I think one of the reasons why this topic always intrigues me and why I really wanted to cover it is because I'm constantly having this conversation. I specifically work with predominantly women entrepreneurs and women find these conversations around money.

very difficult, very uncomfortable. They don't feel comfortable necessarily even talking to their financial advisor or their spouse about finances. And it becomes something that has become almost taboo. And women have a different perspective on money and have traditionally just accepted the amount of money that we have is the amount of money that we have. And so

I think there's a lot of people out there in the space today that are trying to change that. ⁓ I'm hoping I am one of them. I can tell that you are one of them. And so I really thought this would be a great conversation to have. So let's kind of back up a little bit, though, because we talked about how you you're called the Law of attraction hypnotist. Tell me a little bit about what that means. So what it.

basically means, so I started off in this business as a hypnotherapist, but then I started really learning and diving in and talking a lot about the Law of attraction, especially more after the movie The Secret came out back in 2006. was it that long ago? Oh my goodness. was a long time ago. Wow.

And you know, what really what that movie did, it was it kind of validated. That's like, ⁓ OK, it kind of created an opening for me to now be able to talk about it a little bit more, because it was like my dirty little secret. To be perfectly honest, I, you know, I made all these recordings and I would talk about your vibration and your energy and how like attracts like and all of these.

You know topics I was already talking about especially on my YouTube channel and all of that so one day when I was like really trying to figure out like what is my niche niche however you're supposed to pronounce that I'm in Canada so it's all it's always a niche over here, right? ⁓ So one one day I was just kind of like figuring all of that out and I just kind of wanted to distinguish myself

⁓ As you know not just a hypnotist or not just somebody who teaches people about Law of attraction and just like combine both of them and so I use Law of attraction ⁓ principles and you know and Discuss the Law of attraction a lot in my work in my coaching in my You know in all of my hypnosis. I base all of it on the fact that

You know, what you focus on expands essentially. Right. And the reality is, this isn't a new topic even before The Secret came out. This is not a new concept. ⁓ Tony Robbins has been talking about it for decades, but has framed it in a different way so that people aren't thinking, well, this is just like woo woo kind of stuff. And I'm sure that's a lot of what you've probably faced over the years is people that don't believe that this is valid even. And I'll admit, you know, I've got

I got a healthy level of skepticism when it comes to pretty much anything that might sound a little abstract, let's just say. But I do very much believe in this ⁓ because I've seen it firsthand. I've seen how it works. I've always been so enthralled and intrigued by the power of our minds. And it does make sense. I've literally watched people on a bike who focus on a particular point end up crashing into that.

because they're telling themselves not to crash into it. know, like it's it's amazing the things that we can do. Like I was running down a hill a couple of months ago and I kept saying to myself, watch your feet, don't trip. And what did I do? Well, I tripped even though I'm watching my feet. So this is what can actually happen. Like if you're focusing on something, giving it the energy. And I think it's it's hard for a lot of people to ensure that we're giving energy to the right things, to the positive things, because of course, our mind would like to go to the car accident and all the

terrible things. So when we talk about the Law of attraction, just explain a little bit more about what the Law of attraction is and kind of in its simplest form. Is this basically what you're saying in terms of what you think about is what manifests or how do you normally phrase it? Yeah, essentially, you know, your predominant thoughts, feelings, actions and behaviors.

are essentially what's attracting your reality to you. so what and and the you the other part that gets really missed that really is where I specialize is the beliefs. So, know, whatever you predominantly believe not just at your conscious level, but at your subconscious level that is going to be how you're going to act that's going to you know, dictate the

predominant thoughts that you have. So it's kind of a feedback loop. ⁓ Whatever you are believing in is what you're focused on. But whatever you focus on is going to reinforce the beliefs that you have. so we have to be able to, in order to make this work, we've got to be able to ⁓ break that up. And it can be a little difficult. And I think that that's what

creates all that skepticism out there is because people don't really get that. You know, it's not just about wishing. It's not just about, you know, saying a bunch of affirmations. It's not just about, you know, going to sleep and visualizing your goals or creating vision boards. It is about changing your internal hard wire. And so much of what we believe, we adopted these beliefs before we were five years old. Most of what we believe

actually came into our minds and we just kind of accepted it because we didn't have any conscious filtration system until we're, you know, become a little bit into our late teens. We actually start to develop a little bit more of a capacity in our brains to ⁓ start to question things. And, you know, we weren't questioning

money is the root of all evil and all of the money beliefs that are, can't afford that. Oh my God, if I have to hear that sentence, we can't afford it. All of these things, they just get into your subconscious mind. And then of course, whenever you look at something that is a little bit out of your normal budget range, you just automatically are saying, I can't afford that. And we have to.

break that up and we've got to change those beliefs in order to grow into the person we're actually meant to become financially and always. And I mean, it's definitely challenging. I actually did an episode on this just a couple of months ago that talked about visualization and how major athletes have used this for years and visualizing what it's going to look like to

Get the basketball in the basket and part of this came up from a recent trip that I did ⁓ to visit my brother and his family out in California and My my nieces were playing softball and I was listening to the coach saying things like you're a hitter You know, there's a lot of green out there aim for that and it was interesting to me because that's so encouraging just because they were actually reinforcing an identity Yeah belief that like you are a hitter because if you go up to bat, I mean I've heard

parents in the stands are like, ⁓ my daughter's up to bat. You know, they're not really the greatest hitter. Well, you're saying that at home. That's digging into their subconscious. And, you know, it's difficult for us to break some of these things going forward. going back to the you were talking about the we can't afford that. OK, so what if people are like, OK, no, but like, Victoria, you haven't seen my my bank account. I legitimately think there is no money in there.

What should they be saying instead instead of saying I can't afford it? Should they just such a sorry. Go ahead. Yeah. No, that's such a great question because ⁓ we do have to have a new phrase. We've got so the old phrase is I can't afford that. The new phrase might be and it's going to be different for everybody. But like, how can I afford that? Because when you ask a question, your subconscious mind has to it's a problem solver.

And it does this below the surface. So it's not like it's sitting up there like you're actually thinking of all the different ways that you can afford that. But it's going to your subconscious mind is actually going to start to solve that problem. And it's going to figure that out. ⁓ You know, when we just cut off ⁓ the possibility, we cut off the possibility.

But when we ask a question that is full of possibilities, there's many different ways. And it's a habit. It's really kind of a habit to say that. So if we change that habit and we start to ask ourselves the question, we're going to start to tap into our creative mind. as a business, as a fellow business owner, I'm sure that you've experienced times in business

that were not as abundant as other times in business. Absolutely. What happens? you, I mean, I just find for me when I now have a problem to solve, my mind gets so creative and I start actually looking for different things that I can do in my business. You know, I oh, I can create that product or

Oh, I can have a sale or oh, can, you you just start to tap into a whole new level. But, you know, that that's what happens for me. I don't, you know, for some people they might go like, well, I guess it's just not going to I'm not really cut out to be successful in business or, you know, maybe I need to start thinking about getting a job or, know.

something along you know they'll start to negative talk and but I'm telling you if you just change and tweak a couple of habits and words your your brain is so much more powerful than you can ever imagine it's going to find ways for you to afford that thing

You know, it's really interesting that you say that I am definitely someone who is very solution focused. And it's not to say that I haven't caught myself in moments of that negative self-talk, because to your point, it's you know, they've done studies on just how many thoughts we have in in a minute in in seconds, you know, like it's almost impossible to try to train all of those thoughts. But the little efforts, all those little efforts to compound themselves and can move into bigger.

more abundant habits, like you're saying, you know, terms of kind of rewiring your brain a little bit to look at things and reframe it from a different ⁓ angle. And I'm definitely very solution focused. I think a lot of that for me does just come from. often say that entrepreneurship is almost like an addiction, like a gambling habit where like. They just one more kind of thing of like, you know, you can have.

things can be going terribly wrong in your business from someone on the outside. they're taking a look at your business, they could be looking at and saying like you haven't had any success. And I mean, I can name, ⁓ you know, so many really popular entrepreneurs who failed more times than they won. But we only know them for the success stories. And they talk about how like, well, it wasn't working and it wasn't working. And people are telling me to give up. And, you know, they no matter how many people were telling them to give up every day, they woke up and they're like, today is going to be the day.

where we're going to make the sales that we want to make or, you know, where things are going to turn around. And for me, that's always been very much my mindset, but it almost feels like, like I just need to pull this lever on the slot machine one more time and I'm going to hit the jackpot. But I feel like when things aren't working, I know there's a way to make them work. It's just I need my brain to figure it out. So I feed my brain the idea of solutions as opposed to just giving up on things.

I will give up on something that's not working. Of course, like if this is, okay, this is not working, which means we need to change our strategy. What is my new strategy? But I don't just like wake up every day and be like, oh, things aren't working. All right. I guess I'll just like go about my day and hope something changes. Like, no, you've got to actually change, train your brain. One of the most powerful books that I've ever read is called The Gap And The Gain. Jim Collins did a great job about talking about exactly this. And so one of the things that I practice in that book is at the end of the day,

I write down my three wins for the day and I and I outline the three big things I want to accomplish the next day. And by big things, they don't have to actually be like a big project. But what are the wins that I want to celebrate the following day? And that sets my mind up for success as I'm going to sleep, as opposed to where I used to journal with, you know, here's everything that went great today. But what were my challenges and what were the things that I did wrong? I still have those reflections, but I do them more midday.

of what are the things that I want to change here to kind of set myself up for success because at the end of the day, I really want to focus on those wins. And it's been amazing how that's really changed my whole outlook on things. I wake up more refreshed. I wake up with a different energy. So I really love everything that you're talking about here. You talk about how you help business owners to rewire their subconscious for success. So what does some of this look like in practice? Like, I don't know if you can...

Is it too much to ask to walk us through like an example of how these limiting beliefs might show up in some business decisions and day to day life aside from the money you can't afford it? We've talked about that. Like, what are some other ways that this shows up in business that we can be? Yeah, absolutely. And I just want to also comment on what you talked about with going to bed ⁓ and thinking about the three things. That's beautiful. And that really, you know, like

That's all about the abundance and it's all about the gratitude thinking. And that's why when you do that, you you wake up and you're just feeling so much better. So I love how you come part mentalize, you know, okay, I'm going to take, you know, the middle of the day to course correct. And I'm going to take the end of the day to, you know, plant the seed of abundance and gratitude in your mind. So that's beautiful. I love that.

Thank you. Not to say I'm perfect at it every day, just to be clear. It's a really great strategy, though. And whether you hit the mark every single day, the fact that you have that as a strategy, think that's a really, really creative and great strategy. So I work based on kind of a framework. And I feel like ⁓ there are these manifesting conditions that all work.

together. And so I will take my entrepreneurs through ⁓ figuring out where they are weakest. one of the biggest things, believe it or not, even as an entrepreneur, that people have the biggest manifestation block is lack of clarity. ⁓

Maybe like you realize, you like you see that, you know, you want to succeed as an entrepreneur. You want to coach people you want to. But then, you know, what is it that you really, really want? Like, why do you why do you want that exactly? You know, like people like you alluded to earlier, ⁓ they're just kind of OK with the status quo of making a certain amount of money and they're not really.

too focused on how much money well the problem is if we tell the universe that like okay, well, I just want to do this because I just want to Change the world and I want to feel good and and I want to help other people feel better Well all of that stuff. mean, it's great, but it's not specific and it doesn't give you like a really clear thing to To aim like what do you specifically want?

And you want to like really ⁓ write all of that out so that you know, you you've got an aim to follow. I want to make X amount of dollars per month in my business. Well, this is why I want to make that because, you know, I want to contribute to this cause. I want a swimming pool in my backyard. ⁓ I want to be able to be an equal contributor in my

household ⁓ I want to be able to make these you know, like all of the things that you that you really want that for and So that so getting back that cleared that clarity to me that really comes first It's probably one of the biggest reasons why people don't succeed in business because they don't they just don't know what they really really want or why? ⁓ because once you

do know. You can always reverse engineer that. can always somebody else has done that before. There are steps that you can take. Now the steps ⁓ require you to take action. So that's the other part that I really, really help people with is the taking the action. Now, why don't people take action? They don't take action because they don't believe if you

absolutely knew that if I did X, Y, and Z to get this exact result, you would actually, you would just be able to, you know, it's like, okay, if, if a million dollars was sitting across the street and all I needed to do was walk across the street and pick up that million dollars, you would do it. Um, but

You know, people are like, well, maybe the million dollars isn't really over there. And they second guess as to whether, you know, they their dreams are actually possible or not. So if you're sitting there like, well, there's all this risk. I mean, I might get hit by a car or I might fall down or, you know, then they'll focus on all the things that can go wrong along the way rather than just like.

Well, all I need to do is just walk over there, pick up that bag of million dollars and boom, ⁓ I've done it. And of course I'm simplifying it, but I'm just trying to illustrate a point that ⁓ if you really, really believed that your dreams were possible, then you would absolutely take action on it. So that's the biggest thing is the clarity, the confidence, helping people to actually believe that

They are capable that they are worthy ⁓ that you know, they don't have to have all these reasons and these excuses as to why they want you know, like as soon as people start to tell me about they actually do start to get to get clear about how much money they want to make. It's almost like they get like well because I really want to make a difference in the world and ⁓ they justify it with like all these

feel good, altruism, altruism things. it's like, yeah, you know what? We all want that because we're all connected to something greater than ourselves. all, at the end of the day, I think we all want everybody to be happy and succeed. And so that's a given. Like, why do you really want it? know, what like, like be selfish.

It's okay. And I really love everything you're saying here. ⁓ First of all, even just like the you're talking about how it's kind of circular, like your beliefs lead into your actions, your actions lead back to your beliefs. And, you know, there's there is a cause and effect to all of this. And I think that this is something that often gets misunderstood is that you can't just think up and dream of something like this is what I want without putting any actual action behind it. And one of the things I talk about often

is about getting that clarity of what is it that you're building? Why are you building it? Because until you get that, you know, we call it a vision. There's a lot of different words for it, but vision is kind of the main one. But vision also is one of those abstract things that people are like, I don't know, do I really need vision? But it's one of the main things I work on with my clients because everything that we do in our business comes back to that. And you will continue to find cracks in the foundation that you're building. And as your business grows, especially

if you don't have that clarity. And I love that you're just bringing up one more thing that that clarity is needed for because most of my audience and my clients are what I affectionately call my accidental CEOs and that they follow more passion than plan. And so they knew that they wanted to do this cool thing, whether it's as an artist or a photographer or an interior designer, but whatever it was, they had this idea that they wanted to

somehow monetize a passion that they had, but they didn't look beyond the, want to do this cool thing for the marketplace. It didn't necessarily build up the, why do I want to do it? How much money do I want to make doing it? They were just like, do you think someone will pay me for this? And then they kind of, you know, move forward with it. So I love that you're talking about the actions for this. And so ⁓ we're going to dig into this just a little bit more, but we're to take a really quick break first and we'll be right back.

All right, welcome back to the Real Women Real Business Podcast, where we're just talking about how you can't just think about your beliefs and you're you you can change your mindset all you want, but if you don't add actual action behind it, you're not going to see the results. It's not to say that, of course, once you shift your mindset, it is amazing how things change, though, because I know even myself personally, it's interesting when, you know, sort of like the whole I want to buy a red car.

And all of sudden now all I see are red cars. So when you shift your mind to thinking about what it is that you want, all of a sudden it's more open to opportunities. And so you reframe things. Tell us a little bit about how that plays into some of these these actions, because the actions are not necessarily like you need to create this massive to do list and go do this thing. Sometimes it's just a matter of like the action is being open to receiving some of these ideas that might come up.

Yeah, so what you're talking about there, we have this amazing little part of our brain called the reticular activating system, RAS for short. And you brought up Tony Robbins earlier and he actually talks a lot about this. And it's exactly like you said, as soon as you hone in on this one thing, like when I decided I wanted to buy my silver Lexus, it's like, I just saw them.

everywhere. the fact of the matter is, is that they were always everywhere. But now that I shifted my focus, I could actually see that. And it works the exact same way with, you know, with anything, especially in business. Because, you know, what happens is so this this part, we we have so much data constantly being thrown at us in a given day. Think of it like all the spam.

that comes into your inbox, all the, if you're on social media, all the social media that comes through. And if you had to literally pay attention to and focus on every single little bit of data that would come in, you would literally go insane trying to figure all that out. Like it's it's not. Overload. Complete overload.

So that's what the reticular activating system does is it's really a helper and it helps you to filter out everything that's not what you're focused on. Now here's the rub. Whatever we are focused on, you know, is what we're... So like if you are constantly, ⁓ you know, I know in the coaching world and business, you know, so many people complain about...

getting clients that don't want to pay their rates. So if you're constantly saying like, nobody's out there that wants to pay my coaching fee. I only seem to attract people that can't afford it or people that, right? And so now if you're complaining about that, just because you're complaining about something doesn't mean you're not focused on it. You're actually focused on it with emotion. And so.

What will happen is you will tend to as the same thing like if you're dating and you're trying to you know find the man of your dreams or the woman of your dreams and you're saying what all the good ones are taken and I never ever seem to find you know anybody who wants to you know, take me out for a really nice, know, they they point out all the things that are wrong and all the things that constantly show up and so because they're

constantly thinking about the things that are showing up that they don't want, the reticular activating system, scientifically, it has to, by Law, it has to filter out all those other things that are not that. ⁓ interesting. Exactly. And so that is how we can really train our brains to make it much easier is whenever you find yourself

You catch yourself you have to catch yourself like you know like like that that person is just like I'd always Happens this always happens. I always get the the person that like has to think about it Like let me just think about it, right? Right or I always ⁓ You know, they always have to have a ask me for a discount

or whatever it is that's constantly happening, you have to take a look. Okay, this is what I have been thinking about. And so it requires this consistent, ⁓ constant flipping of your mind to now think about and hone in on what do I really want? And any time you find yourself stuck in that repetitive cycle of constantly thinking about what you don't want,

You have to just consistently like, okay, what do I want instead? ⁓ One of the ways that I do this is, you know, we're talking about manifesting a better life. So I always think about like, what am I manifesting right now based on what my focus is on, based on my vibe, how am I feeling right now? What kind of actions am I taking? And you kind of have to call yourself out. You kind of have to say like, what am I?

What am I? If I am in charge of my life, what am I calling in right now based on how clear am I? What are the thoughts that I'm having? What am I feeling? What am I imagining that's gonna happen? What am I constantly talking about all day long? And whatever you constantly talk about all day long, whatever you're focusing on all day long, whatever your vibe you're in all day long,

That is what you're ultimately going to bring about. we have to catch ourselves at all these little moments where we find ourselves. We're kind of drifting off track and you know, in the subconscious mind listens to everything not just what you want, but whatever you're and unfortunately we have been trained throughout society throughout our whole lives to think negative to think, you know,

And it's actually, it's just ingrained in us ⁓ biologically because back in the caveman days ⁓ when we were- Survival technique. Yeah. We're always having to like kind of look over our shoulder. And so that skepticism, we naturally have that. We're naturally skeptical, but we have to ask ourselves now, am I living back in those times?

And we do have to find a way to work around that and to retrain, rewire. That is how we rewire our brains is by, it's like we have these well-worn paths in our brains of the way that we currently think.

And we've got to create a new well-worn path. So it's easier and easier to think that way. And that's where hypnosis and visualization and affirmations really come into play because you can react to the thoughts and the feelings and the actions and the behaviors that you have in that moment when they're when they're happening. And you can say you can you can decide I'm going to go ahead and remap that rewire that or re

think that or you can do it proactively. so proactively is just over and over and over again telling yourself, you know what you do want to happen. Well, I do create ⁓ wealth in my life. This is how I create it and you see yourself you see yourself in receipt of receiving large sums of money. You see yourself

at beginning of your day and how you're setting up your day and and what kind of thoughts you're going to be thinking and what kind of actions you're going to be taking. And once the mind has seen you in that action over and over and over again, it's like, ⁓ well, this is natural. This is just what I do because it doesn't the imagination doesn't know the difference. I mean, the subconscious mind doesn't know the difference between what's imagined and what's real. That's why athletes use

visualization is because it actually fires off the muscles in your body to act as if and it's the same way if you're an entrepreneur and you want to spend your day doing a certain you know activity well train go to bed you know at night like you were doing with your gratitude we'll go to bed at night imagine yourself getting up and doing the workout imagine yourself getting up and clearing your inbox

quickly, being productive, being efficient, you know, all the things, you know, that because so much of this is really practical, but it's right, you know, it really is practical. It's not magical. And that's where I really kind of distinguish myself different when it comes to talking about the Law of attraction. Like I'm not thinking like, if I just keep thinking something that the universe is going to come in, right, grant all my wishes.

with magical fairy dust. No, it's not your fairy godmother here. It's your brain really that's that's doing all this. It's you. But then again, you know, I kind of think that we are all connected. We are all interconnected and somehow, you know, we are the universe. Like we have all the stuff inside of us that makes up the universe. We're all the same ⁓ energy. And so

You know, it's it's practical, not magical. And I love all of this. There's so many things that I just want to kind of like dig into further. Like one of the things you you talked about was just the neuroscience. And again, I talked about this on an episode a couple of months ago about visualization and the neuroscience does back this up that your brain doesn't know the difference between visualizing a win and actually winning. So you're going to activate the same senses and the same reactions in your brain.

⁓ which is going to encourage you to do more of the things that get you that positive reaction. So there is a lot of science to back this up. But going back to what you were talking about in terms of the, what you're focusing on, you have to retrain your brain. What kind of kept coming to mind was I've had so many conversations with people where we know what our digital footprint looks like these days. And we know that if we click on a link,

we're now going to get a bunch of ads that are similar to that. If we're scrolling on social media and we accidentally stop scrolling and there's a reel that's playing, we're going to see more of that type of reel. And so I've talked to people where this has happened to them where they're like, I accidentally stopped as I was scrolling and this reel played and now that's all that I'm seeing. And so they're trying to retrain the algorithm to not show them those things anymore. And this is the same sort of thing. So sometimes in your social media feed, you've got to say like, hey, show me less of these.

Show me more of these other things. And this is what you're doing with your brain, essentially. It's just like hacking the algorithm of like, listen, this is what I want to see more of. This is what I'd like to see less of. Hide those things away and let's focus on the things that we actually want to see. And so spending your energy watching the real you actually want to watch so that your algorithm picks up on it. So similarly in life, ensuring that we're just...

recognizing and acknowledging and practicing those thoughts that are moving us in the direction that we actually want to go on. Exactly. I was literally talking to somebody about that the other day. Like the Law of attraction works very much like social media. And like so many people are like, I hate Facebook. And it's like, no, no, no. You created your own Facebook feed. So you've got to just own it. if you know true, so true. Every single decision that you made, I'm going to accept this friendship. I'm going to

⁓ Click this, you know, it's created and that the whole universe on Facebook is exactly how Law of attraction works. So you nailed it. And I love the reels. I don't know about you as somebody who has, you know, as a fellow cat lover, but like my whole real now is just nothing but cats. So I'm a I'm also a runner. So I'm a crazy cat lady and I'm a runner. And so.

All I get for the most part is anything cat related or running related. like I do also get a lot of photography stuff because I always I love seeing behind the scenes on photography. I have nothing to do with it actually. Like I'm not a photographer by any means. I just really enjoy watching like all the how did they get that shot kind of stuff. So I got a ton of that in my feet but mostly it's runners and cats and that makes me pretty happy. So to your point like I've curated my feet myself and with even with you know everything that we've had.

going on in the world, I made a very conscious effort about a year ago to reduce the amount of news that I consume and be very selective about the type of news that I consume. so with that, one of the big things is, especially in Canada, we actually can't see actual news outlets on our Facebook. It's blocked because of a Law that was passed a couple of years ago or a number of years ago now.

So if someone in the US posts up a link to a news article, it's literally blocked. We can't see it. Content's not available. Wow. I did not know that. Yeah. so it was actually kind of a good thing, is. This is the thing. I was actually kind of disappointed because I was following legitimate news sources that I felt really confident in the information I was receiving from them. But it was also bombarding my feed that I was constantly being distracted by here's what's happening in the world.

And so now I have a focused effort where I go off of the platform. Of course, I go seek out my own news sources. so similar to that, though, when things are coming up in my feed that are more opinion pieces because news isn't shared in my feed, anything that I'm getting news related is really someone's interpretation. It's not necessarily coming from, I mean, and I'm not looking to spark a debate about reliable journalism here either by any means, but.

But the point is that a source that I generally trust, if it's not coming from there, I'm not looking at it. And that has made my experience online much more calming and much more enjoyable. But I had to develop that. I had to curate that feed myself to show me the things that I actually want to see.

And it doesn't mean that other things don't pop up. that's where I've got to use a little bit of discipline and resistance. They like, no, I'm going to keep scrolling past this. That's not where I want to spend my energy right now. And being very selective about it. You know, you just reminded me like this is like just a new thing that I'm adopting. And, you know, like I'm at that five thousand friend level. So, you know, if I want to invite, you know, more people into my I have to get rid of some.

And so I've like literally been, well, how can I like filter out? Like how can I get rid of people? you know, basically the whole idea, the whole premise is I want to upgrade ⁓ my friends to be people that like I aspire to be. So, and it could be anything. It's like, do you have, you know, the body that I want? Do you have the routines that I want?

Are you, do you have the money that I want to make? Are you at the level, you know, are you doing the things? Are you going the places that I want to go to? And so I want more people that show me what's possible and less people that complain or, you know, talk negatively or, you know, and it's, it's just the, you know, so much of, ⁓

The way that our brain works is what we're exposing ourselves to. So if our environment, which maybe it's our social media environment, maybe it's our community, whatever it is, is it showing you the world that you want to see? Or is it showing you the world that you want to run away from? so I believe we create our reality there just

just as much because what we surround ourselves with I mean yeah there's things that happen you know that we don't have any control over and when those things happen are we going to live there you know or are we going to live in the new world that we want to you know create and so you know I really try to like you said I just try to you know expose myself to ⁓

you know, better, you know, just the world that I want to create, essentially. And this is so true. I think, ⁓ you know, oftentimes I've had I've worked with clients, for example, who a lot of their negative or limiting beliefs are coming from a close person in their life. And they feel like they kind of keep going back to, well, I'm always going to have this in my life.

Therefore, I'm always going to be stuck in this mindset. There's no way to escape it. It feels very doomsday almost. But to your point, even if you don't feel that physically, like maybe you're in a small town, you're related to everybody there or you know everyone, you've grown up with them and you don't align with the same thinking as them, but you don't have the resources to move right now for whatever reason. Or maybe there's there's other reasons why you need to stay where you are geographically.

Why can't you open this up online? Like you said, even if it's a matter of whether you're friending them on social media or following them, or maybe it's a matter of just, you know, reading additional books and joining an online community of some sort that's more aligned with the way that you want to think. I've I love that you're bringing this up, though, because I am just such a firm believer that you are who you surround yourself with. And I don't believe that I would be where I am in life if I had.

maintained and nurtured some of my old relationships. And it's not because there was anything wrong with those people or those relationships. I simply outgrew them and chose to move in a particular direction. And I treasure the time that they spent in my life because they were they were formative in some way, but they no longer fit. And that's OK with me. And I have unfriended some people on Facebook. I really don't see it as being a negative thing.

so much as just a growth trajectory. And the reality is that the person I unfriended probably doesn't care to see what I'm posting either. So they're not going to be that upset about it. But it's just so true, though. I just love how it all comes together. I think that, again, going back to the Law of attraction and manifesting, and we hear a lot about the affirmations and living in abundance. And I think what I love is that today you've really provided

here's how this actually applies. Here's how to actually do it. Because I think we see, you know, these 30 second reels on Instagram of someone writing down some affirmations and then all of a sudden they're jetting off in a private jet. And like, it's not really that simple. Yeah, it doesn't change as fast as your Facebook algorithm reels changes, unfortunately, you know, and and that's that's one of the things is as your

making this transition from becoming the person who's in alignment with all the life, the business, the relationships, the health, everything that you want. You have to also realize that ⁓ you still are going to see remnants. You're still going to have days that resemble where you were or where you're transitioning from.

And that's what I always like. Why is this happening again? Because I thought that I had outgrown that I thought and I just look at that. That's just a little remnants of ⁓ something that still needs to be cleaned up. And so you just accept, OK, that's where I was. And I'm still ⁓ transitioning ⁓ into the new vortex, if you will, or

You know the new me the the new ⁓ Promise of who I am becoming but it is a transition and you have to just kind of realize, you know those ⁓ Reminders are gonna they're gonna pop up. We're gonna have bad days. We're gonna have bad experience We're gonna have bad moments and you know, it's the meaning that we give to that If we make it mean something like ⁓ I guess I'm just not

you know ever going to break out of this or I'm never going to be successful. We can make it mean that and then if we cling on to that, then we're going to just create more of that or we can just say, you know what? That's that's still thank you. That's still showing me that there's ⁓ you know, a little bit. mean the subconscious mind is very complex and it doesn't easily forget and there's a reason for that. It is trying to protect you any change that you want to.

⁓ pursue whether it's a know you perceive it as a positive change subconscious mind doesn't see it that way you know subconscious mind says no we want to keep everything exactly as it is you know and because we know what to do with that we with us comfortable ⁓ but you know if you have an idea in your mind a glimmer of where you want to go

then that is calling you to become more and you have to change all of the structures that were keeping the old you in place and create new structures to create the new you, a path to the new you. And I mean, it's like any habit that we're building, we need to offer ourselves some grace. There are going to be some days where you don't end up getting that workout in like you had planned to. There are some days where, you know,

For example, I like to make the bed every day and sometimes it just doesn't get made. And sometimes I just have to offer myself some grace. I'm not looking at that and saying like, well, I guess I'm just not someone who makes the bed. it's not, it doesn't change my entire identity. So with that said, like every habit, it's about making small changes. And I think you've provided some really great tips for everyone here today. But if people are saying like, okay, I want to get started on this.

What are the first couple of steps that they can be taking like today, this week to get them moving forward in a way that, know, obviously if they try to do all the things at the same time, they are more likely to not be able to feel successful in doing it because it's just so much and it can be a little overwhelming. So what are the first couple of steps maybe that they could be taking today, this week, this month? So,

A couple of little plugs I might ⁓ mention are, you know, get yourself a copy of Practical Law of Attraction because that is actually, ⁓ that's my whole curriculum. Like that's everything that I talk about. That is the eight manifesting conditions and that's gonna help you to understand how to get that clarity, how to change your thinking, how to change your beliefs, how to change your vibe, how to take action.

all of it. It's all in that in that book and the second user manual for Law of attraction. It really is. It's you know and it's gotten over a thousand reviews on Amazon. So it's amazing. ⁓ know and then the other thing is My Believe hypnosis app and that it has about 70 absolutely free without a free trial or anything free sessions in there to help you to.

rewire ⁓ your mind so you could get started with that app. There's anywhere from like five minutes, seven minutes to 30 minute sessions just depending on how much time you have. And it's a really great way to just start small ⁓ to rewire your brain. It helps you to create the habit because you get like little rewards for ⁓ doing it ⁓ frequently and consistently.

⁓ Besides the tools that I offer, just what you can do on your own is one, just number one, make sure that you've got that clarity on where you want to go. ⁓ And then I always suggest that people have some kind of a consistent morning routine ⁓ or an evening routine or both that they can stick with. And getting into the habit of writing

down your ⁓ dreams and your goals and just taking ⁓ half an hour. No, an hour. You could take a half an hour. That'd be great. ⁓ But take 10 minutes, take 15 minutes, and just write about where I'm going, what I'm going to do today. How am I feeling? How do I want to feel? What do I need to be focused on thinking? What's the number one thing that I can do today?

to move the needle forward and Yeah, and then you know I would say that that question right there What is that number one thing? What is the thing that's gonna create? That's good easiest thing for you to do that will actually create the biggest impact Today, you know like what is that one thing is it take is it making a phone call is that? meditating for 15 minutes

Is it going out and taking that walk? Is it answering all the emails that have been stuck in your inbox, holding you back, whatever it is. What is the one thing that I can do today that's going to just make the biggest impact that I can get done easily? That is just such practical advice. And ironically, it's actually very much aligned with advice that I give to my clients all the time in my group coaching program.

Every Monday we talk about, what is the one thing we're going to do this week? Just one thing. I don't want to list of your entire to do list. Don't get me wrong. I understand you've got 1600 things on the to do list that you're planning on getting done this week. And I'm sure you'll get to as many as you can. But what is the one thing that if nothing else got done this week, what is the one thing that you're going to focus on? And I think that's just so important. I call it my task triage of like, if things are on fire and you can only get one thing done, like if the

The ship is sinking. What are you going to grab with you? What are you going to actually take with you? And that's that one thing. I think just focusing on that sometimes, think to your point that you mentioned earlier, there's so much noise out there. There's so many things that are being thrown at us on a regular basis that it's so easy to get distracted. But it all comes down to if we can just put our focus onto one thing at a time that's going to make a difference in our business. And I can't wait to download the app because it's called Believe.

Yeah, believe hypnosis. Yeah, I'm really excited to check it out. think it's going to be it sounds fantastic. I can't wait to pick up your book as well, because I love everything you've been saying today. Thank you so much for providing, again, practical tips. And so I understand why you call it the Practical Law Of Attraction because it's exactly what it is. And I think that's exactly what we needed to hear today. So thank you so much for sharing.

Thank you so much. I love this conversation and I really appreciate all the questions that you had. This has been wonderful. Thank you. Thank you. So I'll be sure to post those links for any of the resources we talked about here today. Of course, we'll be in the show notes as always. And I just want to say thank you so much, Victoria, for coming on today. And thank you to everyone who's tuning into this episode. I hope you've really enjoyed it. And of course, don't forget to subscribe to us on your favorite podcast platform. Leave us a review wherever you get your podcasts. And as always,

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